We welcomed at the Hotel L'Adagio in Badalucco (Italy) 7 couples to spend a week-end marked by total relaxation, good food, wonderful surrondings and sound teaching about how to strengthen one's relationship.
All couples left with a toolbox filled with many tips, tricks and understanding that will help them to enjoy more and more their journey together, and a fabulous week-end was had by them all.
We had a wonderful reception by Rossella, the hotel manager, who did not hesitate to go the extra mile to accomodate the desires of everyone.
Here are some pictures of the beautiful hotel and its rooms.
The two days were spent in an atmosphere of camaraderie and joy, the food was absolutely fab and all this helped to create a set up where we were able to learn to better know our partner, to identify
behaviors and how to avoid pitfalls that may inevitably lead to confilct. We also learned how to solve problems, the real meaning of being humble and how to talk about issues...
People enjoyed the stressless atmosphere, the time for just the two of them, to catch up, to be able to stroll and discover new places, and simply to enjoy each other's company without the constraints and timetable of day to day life.
In the evening folks enjoyed a romantic table for two at the Mushrooms restaurant where food just kept flowing....
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And to satisfy the request of many, here is a list of the main points of our two days:
A healthy marriage is made of:
COMMITMENT
SATISFACTION
COMMUNICATION
EFFECTIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION
LACK OF VIOLENCE AND ABUSE
FIDELITY OR FAITHFULNESS
INTIMACY AND EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
FRIENDSHIP AND SPENDING TIME TOGETHER
COMMITMENT TO CHILDREN
DURATION AND LEGAL STATUS
Myths to destroy:
Neurosis or personality problems ruin a marriage;
Common interests keep people together;
Reciprocity keeps a good relationship;
Avoiding conflict will ruin a marriage;
Affairs are the root causes of divorce;
Men are not biologically built for marriage;
Men and women are from different planets;
The importance of Positive Predominant Sentiment
The number one reason people give for why their marriage didn’t succeed is a lack of commitment on one or both spouses’ parts.
Elements of commitment
Constraint commitment
Personal dedication
The 6 signs of relational Problems:
Harsh Startup
Four Horsemen of the apolycapse, Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling
Flooding
Body Language
Failed repair attempts
Bad memories
How to change a (bad) habit
Compromise or Concession
The Power of Humility, what is it?
The importance of Respect
How to say NO
7 Principles to prevent a break-up
Enhance your knowledge about your partner
Nurture fondness and admiration
Turn towards each other and not away
Let your partner influence you
Solve your solvable problems
Overcoming Gridlock
Creating shared meaning
Forgive yourself
How we connect Emotionally
Bid by Bid: How to Build Better Relationships One Step at a Time
Six Bid Busters and How to Avoid Them
Looking ahead
How to discover our brain’s Emotional Command System
The Explorer
The Sensualist
The Commander in Chief
The Nest-builder
The Jester
The Sentry
The Energy Czar
Our Emotional Heritage
Sharpen Your Emotional Communication Skills
The art of Listening